February 28th, 2010
Though the frequent subject of controversy, numerous practitioners hail conversational hypnosis and the celebrated Underground Hypnosis program and its likes as useful procedures. It’s inaccurate to describe hypnotic suggestion as mind control - for the famous saw concerning “mind over matter” is still true - you can convey messages easily and assuage, maybe even treat, physical, emotional and even mental issues by use of the unconscious mind. As a result you can use it to create both the comic tricks you’ve seen on television or at frat parties and strong assistance for smoking addiction. I do accept that what you’ve heard could sound somewhat disturbing, but savvy practitioners know precisely what to do and create almost no issues. conversational hypnosis along the lines of the method being taught in Underground Hypnosis is in its essentials placing your subject in a trance state. The depth of the trance state you can induce is governed by many elements, chief among them emotional status as well as personality. The lightest degree of trance can be detected as they begin to “untense” certain smaller muscle systems. As the eyelids feel heavier, lethargy will take hold and they’ll want to nod off. You can watch shoulders slump as a deeper trance washes through them at an astonishing pace.
A skilled practitioner can establish trances so deep that the only sensory input they receive is that created by whoever has hypnotized them. And as they’re led to this point, the concept of hypnotic suggestion comes in, establishing a pathway to the unconscious mind. You can intensify the trance state more to the point where the hypnotized person becomes able to forget given recollections andfind themselves unable to feel particular bodily parts through suggestion. Beyond that lies hallucination and other altered perceptions, and if you continue, you’ll eventually establish a state reminiscent of that experienced during general anesthetic. People could undergo a medical procedure at this point without feeling pain.
Black Ops hypnosis taught by the Underground Hypnosis program doesn’t go quite that far; but it doesn’t need to. If all you want is to convince someone in your chosen direction, you simple need them to achieve one of the earlier two phases of a trance state. The best part? Everyone can learn these arts via Underground Hypnosis. It only requires a couple of hours and time to try out what you’ve learned, and after that short space of time, you’ll be persuading your subjects to do what you want. Why be worried? Get in touch and learn.
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November 24th, 2009
If you’re reading this article, you’re most likely going through slight financial stress and looking for a way to gain control of your finances. Developing and committing to a monthly budget has always been one of the ideal methods to do this. A sound budget is an essential tool for managing money, one that has allowed me to live well even on limited funds. One of the most critical things that I do every month is managing my monthly budget, this has allowed me to systematically meet all expenditures, grow my savings, and reduce debt.
I usually map out my budget for the coming month close to the end of the month. That gives me a heads up about what’s down the road. It’s not a good idea to develop a budget after getting paid because, too often, that flush feeling of receiving a paycheck leads to unessential and impulsive spending before the paycheck ever reaches the bank.
I start my personal budget by listing all the expenses that must be paid on time like, loan repayments, utility bills, insurance payments and motorcar loans. These are the essential things that I must pay to keep a comfortable roof over my head. I like to pad these essentials to make “money back” after paying the bills and, if costs increase unexpectedly, I’m always covered.
Next, my budget is subjected to a list of discretionary things I need to cover but could live without if absolutely unavoidable. These items may include monthly savings deposits, credit card repayments, and donations to charity. These things are also necessary, but in case of emergency I could put them off for a short time. By giving credit card companies the maximum instead of the minimum, I keep my credit score high and my debt low.
My budget does not include the cost of living such as food and entertainment. Ultimately, these items get covered by what’s left in the budget. Some months involve lots of beans and rice, slow-cooker meals, free or cheap entertainment, and only one inexpensive piece of clothing . This strategy of overseeing my monthly budget has worked out very well over the long term as long as I honor it religiously.
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June 17th, 2009
I’m not a spineless gullible single man, traditionally occupied by being without a date every weekend. It’s unlikely people haven’t pegged me to write a blog about great dating and companionship. Go figure.
Helplessness is a fixable popular feeling and entirely ripped out of my man programming (man-gramming?). Even so, Here’s the situation, I had no choice but to squelch a solid cohabitation which meant a lot for us but just deadended for both of us. So you might go on record saying its been ages since I was dating. I can’t find the great expectations that came naturally before.
Living free and single isn’t bad. It’s a given that I won’t lounge about, peacefully watching Two and a Half Men episodes off the torrents. The number one cause of this bout of incidental dating lameness? We’re not in high school, and everyone else is boring.
My accomplished college pal, Josh, who has never had dating lameness, informed me he’s currently shooting from the same blind as I am. He introduced me to this Dallas dating serviceI joined. A bit out of character, but I enjoy introductions with sophisticated women around my age. Surprise, I decided to make a change and became a member.
Be honest, ya can’t feel down by going dateless when you haven’t even put yourself into the game. Just like my old football coach Chris Simms often said with a smile, “You’re complaining to the competition, sonny.”
Coach was crazy, and a little out of touch. Still, the old man was on the money in a round about way. He was good humored. This fun company offering matchmaking services in Dallas that I use could have overloaded the gipper’s shiny bald head.
Through great expectations I talked to dozens accomplished and desirable women that catch my interest. I actually had a blast with a few indisputably remarkable people. I ducked out of the mixer a little early following a promising exchange of numbers, and even grew some political connections for my job. Success.
Take action. Can’t complain if you don’t try. Take it from me, believe in your own great expectations for your dating life.
Respectfully,
Josiah
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May 27th, 2009
Shopping for wigs on the Internet may not be anything to dread. Listen to me, I’m a classy mother of 2 elementary kids making the best of unfortunate hair loss. I remain vibrant because I’m known (only by a few - hehe) to discreetly don a couple well-done lace wigs that I value dearly. I can assure you, it won’t take long to discover your hidden personality with the comfort and style quality lace front wigs. I’ve seem them do wonders for thousands of successful people who appreciate them.
Maybe we have held similar questions as I did. “Do wigs ever look real?” along with “A wig, can you be serious?” were my panic-driven questions, for sure. These fears are not stupid if you take the time to relax and realize how many fabulous and attractive selections are available. Wigs for womens hair loss styled from natural hair, empower their wearers in every business with confidence. There’s nothing to stress endlessly in! Never seen a well done wig? That’s because people never even know it from a person’s actual hair.
Here’s a few wig choosing basics a woman might weigh. Hands down the most realisitc wigs are lace front. Wigs styled from human hair are typically 300% pricier compared to fake wigs–for many reasons. They may be incredibly more comfortable! I strongly recommend them. However, on a budget, imitation wigs are not a bad option at all and worth of consideration.
I opt for human hair wigs due to a couple different traits. They last longer and its easier to change and style on a daily basis. Plus, my husband likes the natural feel, too.
The choice is yours, so do your homework to select a wig that suits you, so you can enjoy it confidently! Regain your confidence, and what’s more, be confident with it on. No different than for any accessory, a wig reflects who you are.
Stand Tall!
Abby Kaufman
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October 15th, 2008
When I was younger, getting a secondary education was optional. However, with all of the changes in the world and the competitiveness of the workplace it seems obvious that you can really be left behind if you don’t possess a degree.
After my job of fifteen years was phased out I decided I needed to make some better choices about my future. When I started looking for another job to match the rate of pay I was receiving I found that nearly everything I was interested in required a degree. However, the nearest university from me was over forty miles away. I had no interest in making a daily commute of eighty miles with today’s gas prices. Therefore I was delighted to find that there are so many online degree programs offered through reputable universities. In addition, I found so many wonderful web-sites that offered career information and helped me make the right choice on an academic concentration.
I was a little intimidated at first, but now I am really excited for school to begin and I feel really hopeful about my future. I know this degree with help me get into a better position that won’t be at risk of being phased out after years of dedication.
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September 23rd, 2008
love to try new things, especially moisturizers and beauty products. When I bought this new anti wrinkle face cream I had no idea what I was in for… It is loaded with all sorts of nourishing ingredients that help to prevent wrinkles but it also has this skin firmer that sort of tightens your skin for an immediate effect. After I applied it the first time I felt like I had a face lift! My skin was positively taught! When I finished my make up and put on that new lip plumper lip gloss my lips started to burn… I was afraid to go outside!
I believe in aging gracefully…NOT! Why should I buy anti wrinkle face cream? Because I do not want to shrivel up, thats why. An ounce of prevention, right? As I have gotten older my skin has begun to feel a lot dryer and it seems that face creams that help to prevent wrinkles are the ones that help alleviate the dryness the best. these creams have the right ingredients for mature skin and if they can help to prevent or diminish the appearance of wrinkles then I am all for that! I am not going to go down without a fight.
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May 17th, 2008
Motivation is seen as something to be supplied to the workforce in discrete lumps by paid third party gurus.
The “motivated” workforce is then sent back to exactly the same conditions that demotivated them in the first place.
Why not spend that time and money figuring out what demotivated them in the first place, and just stop doing it.
Stop Trying To Motivate Me!
Some years ago while working with an NHS Primary Health care trust I was in conversation with one of the ward sisters.
In the course of the conversation she revealed that she thought she should be doing more to motivate her staff, but with a roll of her eyes, she told me how difficult it was to find the time to get through the normal business of the ward without doing anything extra, like motivation.
I did not feel there was any value in remonstrating with her at the time since her perception of what was required of her was deep rooted and supported by an entire industry that agreed with her idea that motivation was something that she was responsible for handing out in discrete packages.
We have been brought up in an age where motivation is seen as a commodity that can be bought and distributed to the workforce in the same way as candy.
The Ward Sister held the common view that motivation was something that came on prescription and it was her job to hand it out at frequent intervals, except that like aspirin, did it really matter too much if you missed a dose.
In her case having missed one dose, missing the next one did not seem so serious until missing out on motivation became the norm.
This view, that motivation can be applied in discrete lumps by management, is a common one that is supported by the industry from whom we purchase speakers, workshops and techniques to infuse our workforce with this mysterious management candy called motivation.
What we seem to have missed in this rush to spray the latest brand of motivation on the workforce, is the follow up.
We rush out of the motivational workshop ready to do battle with giants, then we all assemble underneath a large banner that says “Now What”.
The reason we feel that the workforce needs motivating is because the environment they work in has demotivated them.
But as soon as we have applied a dose of motivation to the workforce we put them back into the same environment that demotivated them in the first place.
A more effective use of the workforces time would be to find out what is going on in the workplace that demotivates them, then stop doing it.
This would avoid putting the workforce back into the same environment that caused the problem in the first place and would in all probability avoid the need for an injection of motivation in the first place, because the workforce would not be demotivated.
The nurses on the ward were not demotivated because the sister failed to give them motivational talks.
They were demotivated because the sister would not consult them before allocating the off duty, they were demotivated because the administration would not give them enough pillow cases to cover all the beds, they were demotivated when they had to look after healthy people because there were not enough ambulances to take them home, they were demotivated when wards were closed by accountants who could count numbers without seeing the real cost.
Nurses are one of the most highly motivated groups of people on this planet.
They become nurses because they want to be able to care for people.
For this they go through a long and taxing process of education and training until when they finally qualify they are fitted for the task and proud of their ability to carry it out.
They are the most motivated people on this planet.
Then when they go to work they are not allowed to apply for the holidays they want because they have not been on the ward long enough.
They are not allowed to park next to the hospital because the administrators have taken all the spaces and instead they have to pay to park in the public car park. They are not allowed the basic tools that they need to do their job because the budget allocation for that year has been used up.
It would not matter how many motivational talks they received.
While the same conditions persist that first caused their frustration they will always return to the source of that frustration and the same banner that says after motivational training, “Now What”
The nurse is one example, in one industry, in one sector.
That example is by no means unique.
The view of Motivation as a commodity to be dispensed at intervals by paid third party gurus prevents Managers from accepting responsibility for the way their own staff feel about what they do.
Peter A Hunter
Author of “Breaking the Mould”
http://www.breakingthemould.co.uk
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May 14th, 2008
How do you embrace and resolve parts of yourself that cause
discomfort? The first step is recognizing that none of the
Essence that is You is bad, good, or anything else other than
just being. You are, and being You is enough validation. I am
not talking about actions and/or responses to Experience. I am
referring to the Essence that is You. Responses are not You.
You are validated, just as You are.
Begin by looking at the spectra (dimensions) of thoughts,
emotions, beliefs, and knowledge that you have concluded is you.
Deciding that some of these are bad and others are good is no
different than looking at a spectrum of visible light and
deciding that certain colors, or wavelengths, are displeasing,
and others are pleasing. These distinctions add more parameters,
or dimensions, to Experience.
Further, dividing Experience up by making distinctions is an
example of the dimensionalizing of Experience. This is the cause
of complications, complexity, problems, and the need for
solutions to them. The process can become addictive, leading to
a repetitive spiral into ever-greater complexity.
By contrast, think about how it feels to regard all of the
wavelengths as equally acceptable. Doing this is what will
enable the embracing. The next step is the realization that not
all of how you experience yourself is reflective or symbolic of
Reality; some is reflective or symbolic of illusion. This
illusion in Experience is whatever is incongruent with Reality.
Limitlessness, which is also known as Infinity, is Reality. The
realization of what is illusion and what is Reality is at the
heart of discovering who you really are.
Anything that is not Reality can be resolved into Reality.
The practical means of accomplishing the resolution of illusion
into Reality is the reduction of the dimensionality of
Experience. This process is what I call catiteration, and is
done internally as you perceive and respond to Experience.
This word, “catiteration”, is formed by adding the prefix
“cat-”, meaning to break down or reduce, to the word
“iteration”, meaning the repeating of a process. Practical
catiteration, in the context of this writing, means the removal
of distinguishing characteristics, or parameters, governing your
perception of, and response to, Experience. Iteration is
appropriate because the process through which you dimensionalize
Experience is a repetitive process that you have learned and
applied throughout your life.
An example would be to look at an aspect of Experience that you
have, in the past, decided was evil. To catiterate this, you
would decide to allow Experience to be just as it is, without
adding the value evil to that aspect of Experience, neither in
perception nor in emotional response. If your response to evil
was fear before you chose to do this practice, then afterwards,
fear would no longer be your response. In fact, you would not
perceive evil anymore, either. Most importantly, you may still
decide not to do what in your past was iterated as evil, but you
would have no internal emotional or intellectual ties. This is
what catiteration, or decreasing the dimensionality of
Experience, means.
Why would you want to decrease the dimensionality of Experience?
Isn’t that dimensionality the richness of Experience?
The multidimensionality is obscuring who you really are, which
results in the proliferation of a seemingly endless parade of
problems that require your time, energy, and attention to solve.
While you are busy trying to solve problems, or worrying about
them, you have little or no energy left for self-realization.
The resolution of illusion into Reality, or catiteration, is
extremely vital in Path Process for you because it is the only
genuine solution to your problems. You will learn that it also
provides sustenance for your Path Process via reclaimed energy
(otherwise known as taking your energy back). This reclaimed
energy is what was used, originally, to dimensionalize
Experience in the first place.
Another example of catiteration can be derived from the
experience of driving to the office. Heavy traffic and drivers
lacking presence of mind can make this trip quite stressful. To
catiterate this, begin by recalling the thoughts and feelings
associated with a calm, unobstructed drive down the same
highway. Next, look at the thoughts and responses you have when
a driver swerves in front of you and then slams on the brakes.
This is all Experience, and if you must add qualifiers to it,
such as “unfair”, “inconsiderate” and “wrong”, and/or emotions
such as anger, rage, or frustration, you have added dimensional
distinctions to make it so. Remove those distinctions as well as
the “positive” distinctions you’ve associated with the calm,
unobstructed drive, and you have catiterated both cases. Your
mental and emotional response should then be the same in both
instances by catiteration.
Being in Moment is an ongoing practice, not something to master
and then ignore. Today you will be closer to true Awareness in
Moment than you were yesterday, and next week you will be even
closer than you are today, and next year . . .
The ultimate experience of being in Moment is focusing Awareness
on Awareness itself, not just on the sensory, mental, or
emotional responses you are experiencing in present time. The
very essence of the spiritual Path is to realize and know who
you really are. You must observe and Experience what transcends
the beliefs, perceptions, and other illusions that are part of
space/time Experience. What transcends space/time is your very
Essence, that which is Aware and Experiencing this life you are
living.
In a deeper sense, being in Moment in present time still
contains elements of illusion, which is defined as anything that
is not congruent with who you really are and what all really is.
So, the truest experience of being in Moment must be pure
Awareness of Awareness itself. This state is the one that is
most likely to be equated with a deep meditative state. It is an
intense presence without thought or emotion, and a complete
sense of embracing and yet surrendering simultaneously. You are
literally focused on You as Awya, with no dimensional
distinctions.
With practice, you can continue the exercise of being in Moment
even while you are going about your daily activities. This is
possible because your inner focus remains on You while you allow
your in-physical limited self capabilities to engage in the
space/time activity. You remain Aware of the space/time action,
but you do not respond to it with dimensional iteration as in
making value judgments or other distinctions.
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April 29th, 2008
Many ask me this question: “Did moving to Mexico make you happier?” My answer to that question is a resounding “no!” Does that shock you? Does that concern you? Does that cause you to pause? Do more questions come to mind?
Moving to Mexico did not make me happy.
To explain this I am going to have to get all Dr. Phil on you. If you are from America, you know exactly who that is and what he is all about. The man had an impact on my life I must confess. You should read his books. They might have an impact on your life too.
If you were an unhappy person living in America, you will more than likely be an unhappy person living in Mexico. If you have lived a life of reacting to circumstances with depression, rage, whining, crying, complaining, stress, anger or whatever, chances are you react the same way in Mexico. Moving here is not going to change that.
Circumstances or situations in our lives are nothing more than information. When the dog pees on the carpet, when the teenaged son wrecks the car, when the boss fires you, when you lose money in the stock market, all that is in your life is information or a stimulus. How you react to that information or stimulus is your choice.
Think about this for a moment. There is nothing in the examples I mentioned that has any power over you. These are just circumstances. They are “things” that happened. They have no power to control your feelings. The teenaged son wrecking the car is just a situation. It isn’t good but it is just a situation. This situation cannot hold a gun to your head and say,
“Ok, now I demand you feel rage and scream and hit your kid.”
If you do indeed react irresponsibly in that situation, it is because it is something you chose. No one, nothing is making you do anything.
Do you get this?
This is a hard concept for the victim mentality of someone coming from the American culture of victimization. It is what we have been led to believe. Someone or something is always at fault for “making us mad!”
How many times have you said to someone,
“You make me so mad!”
That phrase and the ideology that undergirds it, is programmed into Americans’ thinking. It is as though we are on autopilot and say it without thinking.
If you have lived a life of rage, depression, anger, or whatever in America; that, dear reader, is a good indicator about how you will live in Mexico. Let me assure you there are going to be plenty of circumstances or stimuli in Mexico to which you are going to be tempted to react in the identical way you did to stimuli in America.
I cannot overemphasize this enough. Mexico will not change you. All it will do is provide you with a new set of circumstances, situations, information, or stimuli to which you will react in the same way you did in America.
If you believe moving to Mexico will change you then you are in for a big surprise and a heartbreaking disappointment.
If you are of the mind-set that someone or something else is responsible for your happiness, then you are not expatriation material so don’t waste your time and money.
Now, let me turn on a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. I believe it is possible for someone to change.
I think one can learn to choose better behavior. If you’ve lived your life with an anger control problem or whatever, then get some help before expatriating to Mexico.
Trust me when I say that Mexico has plenty of circumstances, situations, information, or stimuli in life that she will throw your way.
Doug Bower is a freelance writer and book author. His most recent writing credits include The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, The Houston Chronicle, and The Philadelphia Inquirer, and Transitions Abroad. He lives with his wife in Guanajuato, Mexico.
His new book, Mexican Living: Blogging it from a Third World Country, can be seen at http://www.lulu.com/content/126241
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April 10th, 2008
If you sometimes have a problem getting around to doing something, you aren’t alone. Most people have had similar experiences. There are however, some specific actions you can take to pay your bills, get moving on a project, begin to repair a strained personal relationship or any other activity you’ve been putting off.
There are many misconceptions about procrastination, perhaps the greatest of which is viewing it as some sort of illness, an intractable disease the just won’t go way. Nothing, in fact could be further from the truth.
Procrastination isn’t an illness at all; it isn’t something that sufferers must resign themselves to living with forever. Procrastination instead, is a natural, manageable response to situations and difficulties that occur in our everyday life.
Conquering procrastination is about overcoming behavior that keeps you from producing. Instead of concentrating on the negative problems of procrastination, embrace work from the perspective of a peak performer and the efficiency of high achievers who take on more responsibility while getting more work done.
Here are five suggestions that can help you break the procrastination habit:
1. Expect difficulties. A procrastinator often thinks a more successful person will go forward without frustration and self-doubt. Most high-achieving men and women, however, assume that they will encounter problems, which makes them more likely to persevere when problems occur.
2. Do a benefit analysis. When you are avoiding an important task, weigh the advantages of getting started against the disadvantages of starting at some other time. You can then decide if a project is worthwhile, and you are really procrastinating. Or you could determine that now is not the time to start because you need more information, or you can’t begin before something else happens.
3. Take small steps. When faced with a big project, divide it into small segments. For example, if you need to make a new file system? Work on it for 15 to 20 minutes a day instead of making it a huge project. If you’re trying to reorganize your office? Try doing one area at a time.
4. Face your negative thoughts. By writing them down, you will have a better chance of getting rid of them. Whether the thought is, “I’m never going to get this project finished on time,” or “There will never be a way to reorganize my office,” once you have faced your feelings, you will get ideas about overcoming them.
5. Give yourself credit. At the end of a busy day, remember the things you have accomplished, rather than miserably considering what you didn’t get done. If you never feel satisfied with the efforts, you could soon feel that it’s too hard to try.
Give yourself credit for even small achievements, and you’ll soon be able to tackle far tougher tasks with greater confidence.
In his book, Being The Best, Denis Waitley offers self-motivators to help you get into action when you’d rather procrastinate:
• Action TNT - Action today, not tomorrow
• FEAR is False Education Appearing Real
• LUCK is Laboring Under Correct Knowledge
As you begin to experience your ability to break the procrastination habit, you will notice yourself bouncing back from setbacks more rapidly. With a new sense of control over your fears, over ambivalence, and with an integrated sense of higher self-esteem, you will be more willing to try new things.
Initially, however, you might find yourself reverting back to old escape patterns, to your procrastination habits. By simply noticing that you are reverting to your old habits, you are making a significant advance. Being aware of your choices prepares you to successfully channel the energy of the old habit into the building of a new, more productive habit.
Role models and mentors can be very valuable in helping you break your own bad habits. If you really examine the lives of successful people, you will find that they have faced the same fears, insecurities and adversities that you do. You can learn from their experiences, how they overcame them, and how they broke the procrastination habit.
Copyright©2006 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many businesses around the world, on the subjects of leadership, self-esteem, goals, marketing, and business development.
Reach Joe at: joe@jlmandassociates.com
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